#113: Advice to the Unmarried Muslim Youth having troubles with Sexual Appetite?

Assalāmu alaykum Warahmatullāh Wabarakātuh

Beloved brother, may Allāh make the situation easy for you and grant you the flourish of Īmān and the excellence of piety, āmīn.

It is important to note that the situation you described is one of those fitnah that has affected many of the youths and has occupied the minds of most.

What we advise you to do in the situation you depicted is to leave the environment that you described and return to a place where you have less of those. This is recommendation of the Fuqahā at a time when there is a lot of fitnah in a place or land.

If however, you have the means and ability to get married to a pious Muslim Sister in the nearest possible time, it is advised that you begin making arrangements for that so that you protect your Dīn and secure for yourself a Halāl outlet for your sexual appetites.

But in whatever way we look at it, we must also realise that the appetites of gluttony, sex and covetousness are of those blemishing aspects of the self that we must always fight and learn to curb. This is because they will always be there unless they are curbed and restrained.

For this reason, Allah – ta’ālā – said in the Qur’ān:

(وَمَنْ يُوقَ شُحَّ نَفْسِهِ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْمُفْلِحُونَ)

*”And whosoever is suppresses the covetousness of his nafs, then these are the Successful ones.”*

Therefore o beloved brother, you must still fight to repress your soul and constrict your sexual apetite by lowering your gaze, fasting, avoiding the places where the opposite sex gather, reciting much of the Qur’ān, remaining in the company of the Righteous ones and increasing your Ibādāt.

And above all, you must seek for Allah’s help and assistance in this crucial period of your life and ask Him to guide you through this challenge.

We ask Allāh to make it all easy for you, āmīn.

Bārakallāhu fīkum
Jazākumullāhu Khayran

2nd Safar 1438