#1155: May I obey my Husband if he commands me not to use the Hijab?
“”Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
May Allah azza wa jal increase you in wisdom and guidance
Please I have a question, I wear the hijab, alhamdulillah, albeit a knee-length one, along with a long skirt that goes all the way down, however, I wish to use the khimar as required by the Shariah but my husband pretty much dislikes it and insists that I don’t.
1. Do I have to obey him on that?
2. If yes, would that imply disobeying Allah?
Please advise me on what to do in this case and in other cases where I feel obeying him would constitute disobeying Allah
Thanks in anticipation
Jazaakumullahu khairan”
ANSWER:
Wa Alaykum Salam Warahmatullah Wabarakaatuh
Alhamdulillah.
May Allah reward you with the best of both worlds and make you of His Elect Servants who finds the Light of Allah in the Darkness of this world and whose lives are luminated by His life, amin.
It is of the Commands of Allah that a woman draws her veil all over her and that she does not display anything of her beauty or outer garment that lures men and draws their attention or stirs the lustful desires in them. And it is the plot of Shaytaan to use women as arrows with which he hunts the hearts of men and catapults the attention of the ignorant and undescerning ones.
If that is understood and well known, it is required for your husband to understand that, your willingness to use the Khimaar that conceals your outer garment and deflects the attention of men from you is a praise worthy action that not only protects you from molestation, but reduces the many vices out there and reduces the armaments of the Shaytaan with which he destroys man.
If your husband does not understand this or does not see the necessity in this, it is your duty to explain it to him and when you see that you are incapable of doing this or he does not take your words seriously or he does not allow you to make him understand this, it is OK for you to implore other means.
Women are good with knowing their husbands and sometimes know how to leverage their husbands to do things for them or to get them things that they want. There is nothing wrong in you negotiating with him to allow you use this so as to perfect your Din and protect your Bashfulness provided your negotiation is within the confines of the Shar’iah and does no harm.
Then, if this fails, you may choose to implore the intervention of people in your community whom your husband respect, or Ulamaa whom your husband will listen to, or other such persons as you feel he will understand, provided this does not in anyway escalate his misunderstanding or stir up a problem between you both. But note that the closer in kin the person you want to invite is, the better it is unless where otherwise when you know that your husband prefers a certain person and would probably listen more to him than he would to those who are close of kin.
And if this fails yet again, you do not have to obey your husband in this matter and it is Compulsory that you obey the dictates of Allah Ta’ala.
This Ruling is same with any other scenera where the Command of Allah conflicts with the command of anyone with authority over you whose obedience the Shar’iah has commanded. This is because we were commanded to do good to them, but we were commanded to obey the commands of Allah foremost.
It is Compulsory however to disobey in such situations in a way which is best and does not severe the ties that exist between you.
And Allah knows best.
Barakallahu fikum
Jazakumullahu Khayran
Abū Āsim
28th Rabīu’th Thāni, 1443AH.
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