#142: Ruling on Refusing Wife to Visit Parent
*Answer*
Alhamdulillāh.
: Wa alaykum salām Warahmatullāh Wabarakātuh
It is not permissible for a woman to leave her home for whatever reasons without the permission of her husband
This act is considered a _Nushūz_ (Rebellious disobedience) to the Mālikī and Hanbalī Imams.
: This is because he is responsible for her
Allāh – ta’ālā – said about it:
:وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ [النساء: 34
_”And those from among such women as you fear rebellious disobedience from them, exhort them, then isolate from them in the beds, and rebuke by beating them lightly (as a last resort)”_
This is general.
But as for the matter you have described, then we advise you to take the following steps:
1. Explain to him in an amicable manner the reason for which your parents need help and why you have to help them
2. If he remains adamant, call upon other people whom he respects to speak to and exhort him
3. If that doesn’t work too, explain to your parents the situation that you face with him in a bid for them to relieve you of such assistance you may render
4. If your parents insist that you continue to come to help them, and you are sure that they have an alternative aside you, then you should obey your husband and not go to help them
5. However, if your husband has a weak reason and there is no alternative for your parents, and what they need your assistance for is a very important necessity, then obey your parents in that case and seek for Allāh’s help in what lies between you and your husband
This is because in such a case, rendering assistance and help to your parents becomes a necessity permitted in the Sharī’ah
: It is mentioned in the Mālikī _Matālibu Ulī An-Nuhā_:
): “ويحرم خروج الزوجة بلا إذن الزوج أو بلا ضرورة ، كإتيانٍ بنحو مأكل ; لعدم من يأتيها به”
_”It is Harām for a wife to go out without the husband’s permission unless their is a necessity such as acquiring what is needed like food due to inavailability of who can bring it to her.”_
But you must try to seek advice from people possessed of Ilm and Intellect in all your situations.
: Bārakallāhu Fīkum
18th Rabiul Awwal
1438AH
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