#638: Parent refusal of One`s Khātibah on Bais of Tribalism

QUESTION:

“Salamualaikum. Please I have a problem. There is someone I am in a relationship with. He is Hausa.. but my p Mum does not want me to marry hausa.. She is not in support… The brother is a Muslim and he really likes me..”

ANSWER:

Wa Alaykum Salām Warahmatullāh Wabarakātuh

Alhamdulillāh

You are advised to use every means possible to convince your parents. Call the reasonings of your mum, your dad, your other relatives and also the Scholarly Persons that your Parents respect. Probably they could help speak to your parents on your behalf.

But this is provided that you made the right choice. Most times your parents have better understanding of the challenges of life and marriages than you do and will say things that you may not understand now, but later in life.

But if you are sure that the Khatīb (Proposed) brother you have is free of any of those concerns raised by your parents, you should take as much time as you require to explain to them and make them see reasons with you as we have mentioned above.

If this does not work, then we advise that you listen to what your parents say and wait that Allāh brings you someone whom your Parents will accept.

May Allāh Grant you and us that which is best, amīn

Jazakumullāhu Khayran
Bārakallāhu Fīkum

20th Dhul Hijjah 1439A.H

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